As you may know by now, I am a lover for words. God’s Word and any words that can reach to another soul for encouragement and benefit. Sometimes our mind can work overtime it seems and negative thoughts can be present from the human side of a person’s life. How do we keep our minds as Christ has admonished us to do? How do we deal with our human side of basic needs?
Romans 12:2 – “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
We as humans all have the same basic needs, physical, emotional, and social needs. We know what our physical needs or our bodies needs certain things to survive like food, oxygen, warmth, protection and activity; to name a few. If you have ever studied Psychology, you know that there are certain concepts that make us uniquely the same; even though very different. You too are striving for survival, you just do not realize it as you may not know yourself really well, or your survival method-mental mechanism is probably very different from mine. I am sure that I have more than one survival method. Most of us do; we just use them at different times, for different needs.
The first expression or ’Mental – Defense Mechanism’ is called restraint (protecting ourselves from possible criticism) or (keeping our insecurities at bay). The latter is associated with aggressiveness (trying to hide the fact that we are actually kind of insecure or withdrawn due to having been broken-hurt a few times), but do not want another to know it.
Now would you willingly admit to either of the above openly to anyone other than to God or a Psychiatrist? Not that many people will. Well, I have come to know that admitting your weakness and working on them gives you more power.
Honestly, when I went to nursing school for a period and studied Basic Psychiatric Nursing is when I learned that I was just like everybody else. I learned that talking to myself as if I were talking to the person with whom I had a beef or concern…well that was all human. You know practicing your speech (probably not saying a word you had thought you would) when in front of the individual. Regardless of who you are, where you are, and without admission or denial; we all have some mental, emotional, or defense mechanisms that show up sometimes unexpectedly.
Being saved by grace and forgiven and living according to the Bible helps us deal with these kinds of earthly, human actions. If you study your actions to different situations in your life, you will see that you have more times than you want to admit; experienced something that was missing within your emotional needs. Not necessarily from your actions, but by other people and their actions.
The Common/Basic Emotional Needs We All Share
A person/human basic needs:
- love – to love and to be loved
- self esteem
- the feeling of importance
- recognition and
What happens when these get out of balance and how do we live as Christians to prevent these things from becoming a hindrance, weakness, or affecting our relationship with God and other people?
Philippians 4:8 – “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.”
We all use defense – mental mechanisms for our life when things get out of balance. This is survival within our human self, and we must remember that being a Christian, we have God’s promises that we can live a life of greatness within Him..
Do I want the approval of others? Why of course I do, we all want the approval of others. We want to stand out in some form, be recognized and get a pat on the back now and then. However, when we realize that the Lord’s approval is the most important, we can conquer the human need to be recognized in a carnal world that has it’s own guidelines.
Colossians 3:16 “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.”
Joshua 1: 8 -9 “This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.” 9) “Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest”
With all of the above said, we must sometimes overlook other people’s actions, reactions, no actions, and remember that we are all humans who have been saved by the grace of a living God. We must realize that we are going to make mistakes, (every one of us) say things wrong some times, and not understand our fellow man as we should.